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Disabled 29 year old, single mother of three needs help

dewofheaven started this conversation
Jun 4, 2007

I was declared disabled in 2004, a couple of years after the loss of my son.  I have Epilepsy and the multitude of seizures I endured really took a toll on my mind and body.  I now have three beautiful children, all boys (8, 6 and 2 months).  Originally from the midwest but currently living in the south.  I left my house and home a year and a half ago and moved in with the father of my 2 month old, who I met online about five years ago.  He has now decided that he wants to live alone and I am having so much trouble getting fiding a place of my own here.  The cost of living out here is a lot higher than the midwest.  I am having issues even locating a home due to the fact that I only receive disability as an income.  I can do the 2bedroom hotel suite live in thing with all utilities paid but that will only leave me with $76 a month left over.  We all know money can speak louder than words and with the right amount I am sure I can find someplace for us to live.  I would love to own a home but that dream is far fetched as long as I remain ill.  Now I feel stuck between a rock and a hard place because eventually I will not have a stable roof over our heads if I try to stay out here in TX.  I have made a grave mistake by leaving my home to pursue what I had hoped to be a happy family.  No point in crying over spilled milk, we all make mistakes and everything happens for a reason.  Whatever blessings that could be brought my way would be greatly appreciated.  I love my children and if asking for help can help better our situation then I will no longer let my pride stand in the way of that.

 

*EDIT*

We have found and located a place back in MO.  Thanks to all for the nice comments and prayers.  Now I only need them for one more thing.  The father of my newborn ran off with him in the middle of the night.  Please pray for my family and the safe return of my son.

 

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Obedia
Mar 15, 2008

It is tough having epilepsy i know because i have it myself and have two children on top of that keep on doing a job with what you are doing for your babies and I will keep you in my prayers.

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FlaNewbie
Jun 9, 2007

Hi Dewofheaven. My name is Bea, and i'm a sister of color as well. I made some of those same kinda mistakes sister so don't beat yourself up about them, just take it as a lesson learned. Anyways, I wanted to let you know of some definite resources that will help you relocate back to your hometown with your own place. I recently relocated from another state as well. Trust me you could receive up to $5,000 dollars. They helped me and my kids relocate back to Florida like 3mos. ago. You can e-mail me personally at Blabbinb@yahoo.com. May GOD Bless. B.

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pregnantwife
Jun 4, 2007

Hello.I am sorry to hear of your troubles.I can relate for the money problems.Living in a hotel isn't a good place to be with your children.You need to stay with family/friends.But don't give up ok.Your children depend on you.Good luck and hope you can find help.

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BYSBEE
Jun 4, 2007

Hi my name is barb, I understand you are enduring a terrible hardship right now, and you are seeking directions to a better way of life not only for yourself, but for your children. Firstly, I would set an appointment up with the treating doctor whom has been treating you for the seizures. Explain your situation to him or her. I think he should have a social worker on your case to assist in the unforeseen bills and troubles you are having. Second, if temporary foster care is not for you. Make sure you tell your caseworker under no circumstances is foster care a decision for your children. Request free afterschool programs for the children so the children can remain getting enriched and can persevere in life healthily. Thirldy, see if you qualify for any of the new benefits which social security has opted out to the public. It may mean 1000.00 in your pocket. 4. Seek free counseling, this is the most positive route to go. I encourage counseling to people becasue there are times when better decisions can be made if there is someone whom has the experience to listen. The problem does not go away but it does not heighten. When the problem does not heighten, you can better understand the pros and the deficiencies when making a decision. The plan is to assist you to obtain emergency food stamps, emergency housing, even if its a sheltar, and keep appointments with doctor, request a socials worker, and grant aid from the state which you reside in. Explain your goal and then ask what is the best way to be objective. I know with a companion or homehealth aid and a place to live, the burden can be a little lighter. Do not forget food, and washing of clothing. remember dishwashing liquid is soap as well. Some times soap powder is not on sale, but dish detergent is. I know you can survive this in a healthy positive way, breathe and ask your doctor about the resources he may have available. sincerely BArb

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